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Save the drama for another mama…….. July 28, 2012

Filed under: children,mom friendships,motherhood,Parenting — ddl6 @ 1:58 pm
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I have been a mom for almost 11 years now and I think I am finally getting the hang of making good “mom friends.” The women that I consider to be my close friends are all amazing ladies who I admire and respect. They don’t take themselves too seriously and they make me laugh and aren’t offended by sarcastic nature and foul mouth.

It has been through trial and error that I have come up with a list of the types of moms that I try to steer clear of. I’m open to giving anyone a chance but there are types of moms that I just know I will never click with:

  1. The “my life is so much more difficult than yours” mom. Being a parent is mother flipping hard….for everyone. We all have a million and one things to do on a daily basis. Get over it. Have a glass of wine and just deal.
  2. The “all negative,all the time mom”. Oh Lord, this mom is very difficult to be around. Nothing positive comes out of her mouth. She can see a rainbow and her reaction is ” Yeah, but it just rained for 2 hours.” I feel like I am a pretty positive person and I like to surround myself with positive people. I can’t listen to how bad things are. I have to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I have to laugh about things.
  3. The “I know best about EVERYTHING” mom. She knows how much sleep your child should get. What your child should be eating. What your child should be watching or not watching. She has no problem sharing her know it all-ness with anyone who will listen. Thanks but no thanks. I don’t presume to know what’s best for every child or every parent. I don’t care to hear anyone else’s opinion, unless I ask.
  4. The “insincere sweet” mom. You know the type: So damn happy all the time, always kissing arse, just phony. I am not fooled at all by this mama. Let me tell you what I’ve learned about her, folks: she is usually a big old bitch. She is judgmental,insulting, and is the first to bad mouth someone…….with a big old smile.
  5. The “disciplinarian” mom. I don’t like to discipline other people’s kids and I sure as hell don’t like another parent to discipline mine. I will step in if somebody is getting hurt but other than that, I stay out of it. It’s not my job to scold other kids. I have four of my own to deal with. There was a mom who had a baby 2 months younger than one of my sons. My son was 6 months at the time and her kid was 4 months. My son was grabbing her son’s foot and she stopped, pulled my son’s hand away and said ” No, no! You need to be gentle! Be nice!” My 6 MONTH OLD, just looked at her and drooled. He should have bit her.
  6. The “hater” mom. Jealousy is a bad thing. I recently saw a quote by Theodore Roosevelt, “Comparison is the thief of joy”. I absolutely agree. I believe you have to be happy for other people’s accomplishments and good fortune. Unfortunately, there is a good deal of competition with everything nowadays and there are some parents who become competitive about parenting. Some moms want to be “the best” at everything and seeing someone else’s success threatens them. Scary.
  7. The final mom I try to avoid is one I’ve talked about before. The “my kid would never” mom. This mom thinks her kid is a ding dang angel. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and think they are great. I also know that kids will be kids and they are in no way perfect. When a mom automatically says ” My kid would never do that.” I laugh. Um, okaaaay. It has been my experience that the child of the “my kid would never” mom usually HAS done it and is probably the ring leader. Just sayin’.

Don’t get me wrong, I have made some great mom friends over the years. They are all supportive,smart and kind. My favorite quote of all time is by Maya Angelou, ” When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” That sums it all up. People are who they are and either you click or you don’t. Save the drama.