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Mom Fail December 8, 2015

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Hello friends! It has been quite awhile since I have posted but I am back with a few stories to share.

I want to talk about “mom (or parent) fails.” Unlike “mom guilt”, “mom fails” are experiences that your children will, without a doubt, point to when they areadults and say, ” Yep, that was the moment she screwed me up.” They are the moments they will absolutely tell their therapists about in their later years. Honestly, I have so many “mom fail” examples that it was difficult to narrow them down for this post. I have picked the worst (in my mind) of the bunch to share with all of you.

When my daughter was a baby, she would scream bloody murder when she was in her car seat. I mean SCREAM. It was so upsetting, it had me in tears many times. When she was about 18 months…

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Peace out…….WHAT???!!! June 16, 2015

Filed under: Uncategorized — ddl6 @ 8:16 am

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I haven’t posted in a week because it’s summer vacation for my kids and they are driving me crazy. If I sit down for a second it’s like I’m offending them. I have “summer mom brain”. I can’t think or concentrate, so thinking of a new post is almost impossible. I decided to share this story about my son, Brady. It’s one of my favorites and makes me and my husband laugh every time we think of it.

Before I begin my story I have to explain that Brady really loves old Loony Tunes and old Tom and Jerry cartoons. Both of them are really old shows and the way people talk and some of  the words they say have changed since then. There are some words that were perfectly acceptable back in the 1940’s that are not acceptable today. Unfortunately, Brady zeroed in on one such word. Of course, a four-year old doesn’t recognize that…

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39 Truths December 28, 2014

Filed under: aging,birthdays,friends,funny,getting older — ddl6 @ 10:23 am
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It has arrived.  The last year of my thirties.  I keep thinking, ” Well, that was quick.”  This decade has flown by and I find myself trying to slow things down but loving the changes that time brings.  It is bizarre.

When I look back at my life so far, I can say truthfully, that the thirties have been my favorite. My twenties were an unsettled and crazy time.  I did get married young and have kids at a relatively young age, but I was still in the process of growing up myself.  It made things a little crazy, to say the least.

I feel like I have learned so much about myself and life, in general, in my thirties.  Of course, the weight of, ” Who will I marry?” and, ” What will my family look like?” has been lifted, somewhat.  In that freedom, I have had a chance to look back, to reflect on my life and I guess I’m feeling kind of…..wise.  Time and in my case, wine, can make one feel this way.  I have decided to share my “wisdom” with all of you.  It would probably be better if I could also share a bottle of wine with y’all, as well, but we’ll make do with my blog.

I have compiled a list of what I call, ” My 39 Truths.”  Thirty-nine things that I have learned over the years.  I’m not claiming that these are brilliant insights into life, just little bits of truth that I have picked up over the years. So, grab a glass of wine or sparkling cider, whatever, and enjoy.

  1. Happiness is a choice.  I spent a lot of time being pissed off and sad about certain things that have happened to me in my life.  It’s been in the last few years that I have decided to acknowledge these things but I choose to be happy about the now. Sometimes, it is almost impossible, but it can be done.
  2. Exercise can truly change your mood and outlook on things. But so can a well made gin and tonic. It’s all about balance, people.
  3. Always take the opportunity to pee. Seriously, just pee.
  4. Friends are so important.  I used to close myself off from people.  I thought I was better off not opening up to anyone. Friends are vital to happiness. Having someone understand and love you because they choose to, is so special.
  5. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect.  In the last five years, I have given up the need to have things fit my vision of how things “should” be.  My house is not going to be spotless. My kids are going to look like hot messes, sometimes. I’m never going to be that perfect, put together woman who I tried so hard to be for so long.  I’m flawed, life is flawed and it’s so much easier to just accept that and say, “Flip it.”
  6. The relationship that you have with your spouse is extremely important.  The kids will get older and not need you as much and it will come back to your and your spouse or partner.  You better like being around that person.  It’s fun to start “dating” again.
  7. I used to always be sad thinking about the day there wouldn’t be a baby in the house.  It really depressed me.  Well, guess what?  Kids grow up and it’s awesome.  It’s awesome to sit at the dinner table and have real conversations with these interesting and unique people who my husband and I made.
  8. S’mores are tiny bits of Heaven.
  9. Every sunrise or sunset that I am lucky enough to witness, amazes me.
  10. Sometimes, you will think that you mean something to someone but you are not even a blip on their radar. Move on and focus on the people who truly care about you.
  11. The movie, Bridesmaids will make me pee my pants every time.
  12. Laughter is vital to me.  I need it.
  13. No matter how old I get or what I see in the mirror, I will always feel like I’m 18. Sometimes it is truly shocking to see my wrinkles because I still feel like that 18 year-old girl inside.
  14. I will do anything for the people I care about.
  15. My kids shock the hell out of me.  I don’t think I’ll ever have them figured out.
  16. My husband is my truth.  Sounds so cheesy, but he is the one constant in my life. Our children change and grow.  He is the same man I fell in love with.
  17. Losing yourself in a book is a delicious luxury.
  18. Taking time to pray or meditate each day is so important.
  19. The quiet, early morning hours are my favorite time of day.
  20. Music can heal.
  21. Holding on to anger is harmful.
  22. I get along best with gay men.
  23. Coffee.  That’s all.
  24. Breathing in the salty, ocean air is intoxicating.
  25. I cannot multitask.  I always thought that as a mother of four kids, I should be able to multi task. I can’t.
  26. I could spend all day taking pictures of flowers.  I love all flowers.
  27. Sometimes, just being present is all kids need from you.
  28. I have a real aversion to people telling me what to do. This is a truth that I need to work on.
  29. I am an excellent judge of character. I always have been but it’s been in the last few years that I have really paid attention to my instincts.
  30. Smell memory is powerful.
  31. People let you down.
  32. The love I have for my children is the most powerful emotion I have ever felt.
  33. I have the mouth of a sailor. Truth is, I like to swear, it makes me feel better.  People who don’t swear make me nervous.
  34. The thread count of your sheets really matters.
  35. I love the south and feel like it’s magic.
  36. Sometimes when you feel like shit, just getting yourself up and out the door can work wonders. So can the right shade of red lipstick.
  37. Water. Drink lots of it.
  38. You have to wash your face every single night.  No exceptions.
  39. Grateful.  You must be grateful.

These are 39 of the hundreds of truths I have learned over my 39 years.  I can only hope that I’m blessed enough to live 39 more years and learn 39 more truths.

 

Boys, Boys, Boys August 30, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — ddl6 @ 10:35 am

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I consider myself a “boy mom.”  I have one awesome daughter whom I adore,  but I have had three boys in a row and I have been in” boy mode” for almost 9 years. I feel like I am part of a special “boy mom” club.  I always bond with moms of boys right away.  Most of my good friends are mothers of my sons’ friends.  I do have a couple of close friends who are mothers of my daughter’s friends, but most of them also have sons.  I feel like they “get” what it’s like to be a mom to boys.  I always feel better when my boys have teachers who are moms or dads to sons.

Boys really are, in my opinion, a whole different ball game, no pun intended.  As much as I told myself I was going to parent my girl and boys the same way, it just hasn’t worked out that way. …

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Just say, NO. June 6, 2014

Filed under: aging,funny,Parenting — ddl6 @ 9:31 am
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The older I get, the less I feel the need to explain myself.  I just don’t have time for that anymore.  Take it or leave it, that’s the truth.  That’s why, over the last year or so, I have taken to responding to things that confuse, anger or upset me with one simple phrase: “No.”  Yep, no.  It explains so much on its own, don’t you agree?  I do.  That’s why, for my first blog post in nine ding, dang months, I will list the things that I feel……no………just,no, about.  No explanations, just, no.  Here we go, in no particular order.

  1. Geese. No.
  2. Duck Dynasty. No
  3. The band, Florida/Georgia Line. No.
  4. Decaf coffee. No.
  5. Talking, non-stop, about how busy you are. No.
  6. Disney. No.
  7. Anne Hathaway. No.
  8. Coughs.  No.
  9. High rise shorts. No.
  10. Goat cheese.  No.
  11. Shopping with my highly opinionated daughter.  No.
  12. Not returning my texts.  No.
  13. Having to check my voicemail.  No.
  14. Snakes.  No.
  15. Peas.  No.
  16. When people say, “Where’s that at?”.  No.
  17. Using the wrong form of “your” .  No.
  18. Hair in the drain.  No.
  19. BJ’s (the store, people). No.
  20. Wal-Mart.  No.                                                  

I believe that covers it.  Take my word for it, it’s liberating to not have to explain yourself.  Just say, no. 

 

 

Spell Check March 13, 2014

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I hate vomit. I know I say this like there is someone out there saying, ” You do? That’s weird, I LOVE vomit.” I know nobody likes it, but there are people who can handle it much better than I can.

My husband is one of those people. He is the puke cleaner in our house. I clean other things but run from puke. The thing is, he always seems to be out-of-town when the “puke” hits the fan. I know that other moms and dads can relate to the fact that the kids always seem to get sick when they are alone. I have a friend that says “It’s in the handbook.” If the dishwasher leaks, AC goes out or the kids get sick, you can bet it’s going to be when your husband (or wife) is out-of-town. Always………ding,dang.

About 2 and half years ago, we had what I refer to as The Stomach…

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How I met P-Daddy November 19, 2013

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I met my husband when we were 14 years old…….a long time ago.  We met in Mrs. B. Williams 9th grade English class.   He sat in the back and I sat in the front.  I was new to the  school, having moved to Florida two weeks before school started.  I was very shy and very angry that my parents had moved me away from New Mexico, the only home I had known.

I noticed him at the beginning of the school year but I was too busy”pining” away for my life in NM to really pay close attention.  Then, one spring day, he was standing at the teacher’s desk asking a question and I looked up at him.  Now, I am not an overly romantic or mushy type person (ask my husband) but I swear to you, it was like some kind of light was shining on that boy.  I saw a future with him.  I saw…

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